Best vibrators and sex toys for couples 2025, tested by 130 people
In 200 AD, doctors prescribed female genital massage as a form of treatment for hysteria (ugh, don’t get me started). But in what was one of the least surprising moves of all time, they complained that the method was “too labor intensive” and “messy” and put an end to it. The hand crank—the earliest constructed sex toy—came along in 1890, and it was followed by a number of similar inventions, like 1904’s gas-powered “Pneumatic Detwiller” and 1920’s porn-inspired “Polar Cub Electric.”
Or put a towel or blanket between you and your toy, or keep your underwear on. (This is why I like the Limon so much; you simply squeeze harder for more speed, instead of having to fiddle with any buttons.) You’re looking for a setting that feels nice and moderate, not like it’s power-waxing your clitoris. I like it because it’s simple and intuitive to use, fits in the hand nicely , and packs a punch despite looking cutesy. It might look a little intimidating for a first-time toy, but many women will love the clitoris-cradling sensation it creates. Both the LELO Lily and JeJoue Mimi are pretty straightforward and uncomplicated, while still being high-quality. I suggest reading reviews online to get more perspectives about your potential purchase.
Then we scoured the massive pool of sex toy options (and read tons of reviews) to find the ones that hit a variety of pleasure points, and that can be used alone or as a couple. According to sex therapists, prioritizing your pleasure offers benefits for yourself, and thus, your partner. With regular use vibrators, they can elevate your sexual experience no matter what you’re in the mood for. Their texture feels nice to the touch, and silicone is nonporous, making it safe and easy to clean. Another popular nonporous option is a toy made of acrylonitrile butadiene styrene (ABS) plastic.
It has plenty of features and moving parts to keep your pleasure levels at an absolute maximum. The rabbit ears stimulate your clitoris while the tip goes to work on your internal hot buttons. You’ll also want to make sure that you don’t use anything with an electrical current internally. That means that it can be used for stimulating the outside parts of the genitals, but not for penetration. Additionally, to avoid electrocution, you don’t want to use anything with an electrical current in the tub or other body of water. There are sex toys that are made to be waterproof, but household items?
The soft Kanuka handcuffs come with a control cord and are perfect for “low-cutting” (that’s in-the-know speak for low friction) exploration, while the steel-capped rope allows couples to explore impact play. If you and/or your partner only have experience with clitoral orgasms, you might want to explore Lelo’s weighted vaginal beads, also known as Ben Wa balls. Who says rose petals should only be sprinkled romantically across your bed? The compact vibrator has seven suction settings and is waterproof, in case you want to use it in the shower or tub. Available in red or purple, it’s so pretty that you might want to leave it on your nightstand as some sassy home decor instead of tucking it away in a drawer. The Elemi’s quiet “gentle touch” vibration mode — one of 10 options — helps with the discretion factor.
After a few glasses of wine, I worked up the courage to do the asking. Of these three wands, the Doxy is the one that’s corded (though both Hitachi and Le Wand have corded options, too). While it almost seems archaic to have a wired toy, I see the appeal of using the Doxy. Hitachi’s vibration patterns range from a consistent vibration to a quick pulse to a rev-up-to-slow-down and repeat. The Doxy is the least expensive toy as it starts at just under $120, $15 less than Hitachi. One benefit of the Doxy, however, is that it’s highly customizable from the head to the collar to the buttons to the color of the wand itself.